Well hello everyone!
My name is Lindsay. I am 20 years old. I have a daughter who’s 18 months old. She’s the light of my life. When I was 18 I met a guy at work. We feel madly in love and everything was pure bliss. Nothing ever went wrong we had the perfect relationship. We laughed we loved and most of all we never fought. We decided to have a baby. So…9 months later, we had a little girl whom we named Emma. His parents took us and 10 other people to Vegas and we got married. After she was born things went down hill and they were moving fast. We fought over anything and everything. Little or big, it didn’t matter. So we decided to take a break I went to stay with my mom for a while. We talked daily and we came to a means of we were going to try to work things out. So I moved back in to the house. Things were fine for about a month and again things went down hill. Then he stayed yelling and cussing at me and throwing things. I couldn’t stand it so we split again. He went to work one day and I went to the house and moved out my stuff. I know that was the wrong thing to do but it was the best thing to do at the time. So I moved in with my mom and he moved in with his. We were split up for about 3 months, and I found out what I was missing. I went to him and told him I wanted to work things out. One say I was at his moms house and I saw a cell phone and I picked it up and was looking through it. I saw my name in it and I asked him who’s phone it was and he said it was his. I went to the end of the list and there was a girls name, Bethany, so I asked him about it and he said they were just friends and he just met her and nothing happened. So I told him I was going to call her for myself to find out if it was true or not. I called and she said she knew about me and that she and tim were friends, nothing more. I took it for what it was worth. Then later that night I got a call from Bethanys boyfriend. He was telling me that tim (oh yea tim’s my husband) wouldn’t leave her alone and he wanted me to talk to tim. He said that tim was at her work all the time, and he told me where she worked. So later that night I went to where she worked and low and behold his car was there. I went in and tim saw me. His eyes were the size of a dinner plate. I was hurt, I have never been hurt that bad in my life. I thought I was either going to run him over with my car or kill him. Both may have done the job. We talked and I took his word that nothing happened. We went from there and tried to work things out yet again. He said all ties were broken with her, and they were. So we kept trying on out marriage. Things didn’t get better they only got worse. So we split again and I went to file for divorce. He didn’t want the divorce he said I was giving up on something that could be changed. I didn’t care at the time. I just wanted out and I wanted it right then and there. We talked as friends but nothing more on a daily basis and we were fine. I talked him into joinging the military. I had been thinking really hard of what I wanted for the rest of my life. I wanted to be with the man I loved. I called and he was acting funny, so I told him that we needed to talk about our future, he said he wasn’t able to talk, so I knew something was up. I hung up the phone and he called me back. He told me he had met a girl from the internet and they were talking. Just as friends and nothing more. So yet again I took it for what it was worth. A couple of days later I got a phone call and it was this other girl, her name is amber. She said that tim was lieing that they had been together for a long time and the had sex and a bunch of other stuff. I confronted him about it and he tried to lie, he finally said yes I did have sex with her but once and it was just comforct sex. I said ok, we are going to let the past be the past. We went from there. We tried to start over, so tim left for the army. One night I got on-line and someone sent me a message and said they were amber, she said that Tim was talking to her until the day he left. I was so mad I didn’t know what to do. I haven’t been able to talk to him since amber and I spoke. So in a nut shell he’s still talking to her and I have no idea what to do. I need help. I love him, I don’t understand. If anyone ca give me advise PLEASE do so. Thanks…..
* Lindsay *