If anyone has read my LJ you'll notice I started taking Zoloft. I had gotten to be very miserable, but the medication has helped. I think it has certainl helped me to not be obsessed with checking out everything my new partner does. I can now accept that we are very different people and not feel threatened by it. I think I was very strongly co-dependent - probably a common issue when someone has continually broken their vows.
I gave up even trying to work it out with my ex. At this point we talk only once a year - when I need him to take the kids when I go on vacation. However, with the kids aging I was able to leave the oldest home alone for a couple of days - after all....he is 18!
I can hardly believe I said that! How old does that make me?!?! Anyway, I am finding that time does heal most things. I'm learning that I can have the relationship that I want if I'm willing to put the time into it.
Welcome to the new members here. Maybe we can get some discussions going - I am back on line and feeling much more in control of myself. I've even been laughing lately - rather nice, don't you think?